An eternal child lurks in every adult.
Carl Jung, Collected Works, Volume 17
Our inner child represents us between the ages of birth to adolescence. The inner child’s psychological nature consists of childhood negative and positive experiences, emotions, and self-worth. Besides being the result of our childhoods, this accumulation passes down through the generations of our family. Our inner child resembles a boy or girl; newborn, age three, five, eight, or ten, who looks just the way we did at that age. This child can be the same sex or the opposite sex.
One aspect of our inner child may feel unloved, unrecognized, and fearful in other words, the neglected or abandoned child. This child craves nurturing and unconditional love. This child neither sees nor feels the light. Instead, it feels trapped, sad, and lonely inside of a dark, non-nurturing world. This feeling of lack of love passes down through our family bloodline. If we heal it in ourselves the next generation no longer inherits the lack of love. Healing our inner child heals the inner child of our children and our children’s children.
If ignored, our child hides in a corner of our psyche until something triggers his or her pain. Their emotional reaction can sabotage our success if the child’s intent differs from our conscious intent.
Our inner child has a whole body of emotions. If wounded and powerless, our inner child searches outside ourselves for love and esteem. When we experience an emotional reaction or have our “buttons” pushed by a situation or person, this is the inner child’s response to old unhealed emotional wounds.
Our inner child feels the rage, anger, hurt, sadness, or hopelessness. Sometimes it just wants to give up and die.
The first three energy centers – chakras – below our abdomen carry a great deal of the pain of the inner child. Our lower chakras relate to survival, power, and sexual needs. These chakras carry our fears, anxieties, and sorrow, which make up the life of an unloved child. An inner child in pain can only reach out for the love they yearn for with conditions attached to that love which in their experience may mean abuse, control, or power.
As a side note, I believe much of the violence, physical, emotional, and sexual abuse results from the wounded inner child acting out in the adult.
See Part 2: HOW DO WE KNOW IF OUR INNER CHILD RUNS OUR LIFE?