It is within us to explore and draw upon our inner resources to heal.
Some wounds are embedded so deeply that no amount of professional expertise can cure, much less heal. A famous Yale surgeon says that as a surgeon, he cuts into the body, but he can not order the wound to heal. Ultimately, it is through our efforts that healing can occur. The path to healing is a personal choice. It is a path where you choose to piece together the fragments and make it "whole" again. It paves the way to self-discovery, to open the door to your inner self and experience inner harmony. And ultimately, come to meet the child within that has longed for your love, care and attention. The child within that is forgotten, pushed to the background, lurks in the shadows, but patiently waits to be acknowledged.
WHAT NEEDS HEALING? Childhood trauma:
The imprints of childhood experience is a powerful force. An expectant mother who lives through a stressful situation during pregnancy share the burden with the unborn child. Years ago, domestic matters were never discussed openly, especially issues about abuse, violence, neglect, abandonment and other related matters. Today, society is more aware of the potential or actual existence of abuse and violence in the home. Tragic that the innermost and safest sanctuary society depends upon can be the most dangerous. These are issues that take its toll on the young victims. They grow up with wounds, carry them around like a heavy load on their shoulders. Some never get over their trauma, it turns up at the most unexpected moment to haunt them; yet, there are those who are lucky enough to confront it and use it to propel themselves to a healthier mind, body and spirit, successful relationships and life itself.
When love is a venom:
How many hearts have known pain all in the name of love. It invades lives from all walks of life, social status, add to that race or creed. No one wants to suffer pain, but it does happen. Healing a broken heart, picking up the pieces of broken hopes and dreams, suffer the betrayal, endure shattered self-image, re-live the haunting nightmares, the violation of one's innermost being, soul and spirit … it can take a lifetime to heal. The most traumatic of all is the violation that comes from those who are supposed to provide a nurturing environment to those who are entrusted to their care. All in the guise of love.
The loss of a loved one can be most devastating. Sometimes one did not have a chance to bid their last farewell. It was all too sudden. Or one passes away after a lingering illness, with the relief that the suffering is over comes the grief of the loss. At one point and time in one's life, grief is a reality.
Wrong turns, wrong choices, wrong decisions- we all take wrong turns, make wrong decisions and choices. This is a human trait, even the saintliest of the saints has experienced this. We stumble, we fall, but many of us manage to get up and get on with life. The losses incurred at times may be life-threatening, or at the cost of financial comfort and security or worst, relationships are threatened, lost, sadly but innocently or unconsciously someone else has to bear consequences and the sacrifice. Wearing guilt on your sleeves, in your heart, in your being invites negative vibrations and digs you deeper into the mire. Take a look at those sad eyes, the window of the soul, and you'll know. However, this is not a dead-end!
Unfulfilled dreams and hopes
Live your dream, ride on the wings of hope- this will not always work out. One day you wake up and realize your dream never materialized and now you languish over the many years you spent trying to pursue that dream! All this while, time, opportunities and life passed you by. Hope can lead to disappointment- realize this. When all hopes are dashed, what have you got?
PATH TO HEALING:
Healing is a complex matter. Who has never felt the pains of suffering, be it physical, mental, emotional, material and spiritual even our dear Mother Earth is in desperate need of healing from the abuse inflicted upon her through man's recklessness, negligence and lack of respect. There are avenues open to healing. One may choose to spend time with a professional, seek comfort from related groups, from family, but always, healing has to start with oneself, from within that deep well of strength. It takes determination to face up to your dilemma, but, ultimately, it is most rewarding to regain your personal power, self-confidence, learn to love yourself and enjoy that inner peace and calm. It is important to acknowledge the pain, to recognize the cause, to be able to integrate the fragmented pieces and be willing to take it to the next step to be "whole" again. Then, you will be able to share love and peace with the world once again. Healing extends beyond the physical state- when the pain is so deep, the spirit, the soul also bear the pain. It comes in hauntingly in the dark of the night, it fills a once loving heart with venom, it could ravage a once healthy mind and body. Beneath a once beautiful and graceful soul is the mask of vengeance. Venom for venom.
BLOCKS TO HEALING
Sometimes, the path to healing is full of potholes. Indeed, the path is covered with blocks, where healing can not be accomplished, it's almost out of reach.
Impediments on the path:
denial, apathy, self-absorption and self-indulgence, addiction, putting up walls and barriers, busy-bee syndrome, compartmentalizing, isolation, withdrawal from society, cynicism, loss of faith, trust and compassion, self-pity, poor -me syndrome, anger, fear of getting hurt again, martyr complex, neurosis or psychosis, aggressive / oppressive behavior, confrontational attitude guilt complex, resignation, loss of motivation. Sometimes, we hurt those we love most deeply, likewise, we bear the pain they cause. Time is a great healer, but don't take the painfully slow route and miss out on what the world holds for you. Let life flow for you and with you.